To me not talking about what I fear is like walking on a beautiful path on a woodsy spring day with cool air and warm sun shining down on my shoulders and coming across a gigantic boulder obstructing the path.
If you pretend it isn't there, in fear of it ruining your walk, it is sure to ruin your walk. You are just going to keep bumping into it and eventually have to turn around.
But if you pause to examine the boulder for a moment by touching it and looking at it and around it, you will see that there is actually a space between the giant redwood on one side of the boulder where you can get by.
And only then can you continue your lovely walk in the woods.